Popular Nigerian actress Happiness Effiong aka Shakira in this recent interview talked about her bad experience dating Nigerian men and how Nigerians guys are game players.
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Why didn’t you play lead roles in any of these movies?
The reason is simple. I don’t want to go to the extent of sleeping with movie directors and marketers because I want to play lead roles.
Some of your colleagues have also said the same thing. Are you saying that sex for role exists in Nollywood?
How were you able to handle this challenge?
I define my stand from the onset. I’m not desperate for roles and I don’t put myself on the shelf to be priced. A lot of women in the movie industry can do anything for roles; not even lead roles only, but also any role, and I’m not ready to go that far. I am contented. That’s how I was brought up. My relationship with directors, producers and marketers is cordial, but no strings
attached except I decide to go out with you because I like you, but not because of a role.
Have you been in love?
I found my first love at the age of 22 and we broke up.
So, I’m not in love with any guy now, because Nigerian guys are not worth falling love with. They are game players. I have been heartbroken thrice and I wouldn’t want to suffer another one.
Don’t you think it may be your fault to have been jilted thrice?
I don’t think it was my fault. It was the guys. That’s why some girls choose to be lesbians.
Did you consider being a lesbian after several heart breaks?
God forbid. I never thought about being a lesbian when men disappointed me. There was a day a rich woman saw me at the Federal Palace Hotel, Lagos and she attempted to lure me into sleeping with her, but I refused and she slapped me and I retaliated. She promised to buy me a car, get me a good apartment, and also get me lead roles in movies. But I rejected her offer. The next time she saw me, she tried once again to convince me to sleep with her, but I warned her to stay away, so she slapped me and I did not waste time
to retaliate. That was how she gave me some space.
Unfortunately, the next time I saw her, she was with an upcoming actress.
Why do you think some women prefer to sleep with other women?
Greed and quest for money, and some are into it to acquire power, but they forget that all powers belong to God. The love of money is the root of all evils; though, money answers all things.
Can you compare Nigerian movies with those of Ghana?
Nigerian movies are better than those of Ghana in
terms of content and talent. But when you compare the Ghanaian movie industry with Nollywood, Ghana is better, because in Ghana no producer or director will ask you to come to his hotel room before he can give you a role. That is what most film producers and directors do in Nigeria. In Ghana, roles are given on merit. But in Nigeria, sex for role is the order of the day.
[Interview by Dickson Okafor]